Jackman is 100% correct, and it’s not like telling a drug addict to stop taking drugs - it’s more akin to telling an alcoholic to stop going to the bar for social interactions. It’s cope. You’re venting in the place that at best, is going always remind you of your addiction, and at worst, make you relapse. And unlike the places you HAVE to go to (grocery stores, etc.) you don’t need to come here. I do agree, though. You 100% need therapy, because it will help you see that. And you need other social circles that are actually going to aid in that therapy - this isn’t it.
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HassX is right. We’re jackals.
I think this site has actually been a positive influence on me though. I don’t look at photos I just post about my struggle and besides from the one or two people who encourage me to keep going most of you offer good advice. I come here because you guys can relate with me more than anyone else in my life.
Obviously my therapist won’t be able to relate with this but they’ve surely had experience helping people deal with other addictions and unhealthy habits so hopefully they can help
But the thing is I already know how unhealthy it is and what I need to do to stop, I just can’t seem to. I don’t see how a one hour therapy session every month is going to help much with that, but I will try because this is getting out of control
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“I don’t look at photos I post my struggles “ ??? Ur in a candid forum ??? please delete your account legit no point of being here your OP went from “I broke my phone cause I couldn’t cap one girl out of thousands i will see” …. To then saying you’re attracted to 1 in 200 women ….block this site from ur phone in ur settings to help , go outside have some interactions this should be a hobby and youre getting too deep into it
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You need to give it up. It’s blatantly obvious and you don’t need a therapist to tell you that. You are constantly feeding into and projecting the idea onto your reality that you can’t have what you want. You’re literally creating that reality yourself. So much so that you can’t even waste time getting pics of it anymore. If you had put as much energy into sitting down, developing a real hobby, brainstorming where to actually meet milfs, and figuring out where those two intersect as you did capping, you’d have had 3 milf fwb by now.
Milfs are usually have even higher libido. And they definitely enjoy the force and energy of a lesser aged man. So there’s no point in artificially limiting yourself simply because you’re effectively too scared to put yourself out there and actually get them. Why complain about only meeting milfs in inappropriate areas when you’ve made zero effort to meet them in appropriate ones? Why the fuck did you chase down that chick for a pic when you could’ve tried to talk to her and get her number? So beautiful…that a picture was worth more than a chance at actually getting to know her?
Even if she said no, you’d be in the exact same position as now. Except you can say “At least I tried. Now I know for sure there was nothing that could’ve happened.” But instead you punched your phone over a pic you shouldn’t have been taking in the first place. How would you have felt if you got no picture, but actually got her number instead? " Excuse me! I’m not gonna lie. I saw you walking down the street and your aura was so strong I had to park and see what you’re about. What is your morning routine where you’ve got so much positivity like that? Who are you?"
I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I’m speaking this way because you already know the answer. You’ve just decided to waiting for everyone else to tell you what you already know in your heart.
Drop the capping, put yourself out there, and fuck a milf.
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I think the opposite, I think OP wants to keep going and is looking for a reason. Why post these longs texts on here? We ppl know shit about stopping, and such things as deleting your login is damn obvious and barely needs to be said. If he was serious he’d just do it. Just accept you’re a pervert like the rest of us, get the anger under control, and work out how to fit it into your life. Either that or just quit and stop bothering us with long forum posts that have no pictures of ass in them
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I hear your point, but I have fucked some of these women before, I don’t actually want the reality of it as much as the fantasy of it
This particular woman was trashy as hell, you could tell by the way she dressed and her tattoos and she drove a beat up old car… I just happen to be extremely attracted to women with her body type/look, but I’ve tried actually dating one and I can’t stand their personalities they’re painful to be around
Capping for me is a way of getting a fix with women i find really fucking hot but am not compatible with and wouldn’t even want to be fwb with, it’s like having an little taste of forbidden fruit
I’m looking for a real partner for a real relationship now anyway, I’m done with casual sex
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Read “Invicto” from Macos Vazquez.
It has helpted me.
Probably not a good idea to discuss your capping addiction to a therapist!
I feel your pain, you need to find a distraction if this is causing you too much grief!
In those situations.. you just gotta enjoy SEEING (in the moment) and take all of her beauty in. I’ve had it (back then) where my phone would say “not enough space” when I saw a GORGEOUS woman, but I’ve had to learn to just say “nice” and keep it pushing.
You don’t necessarily NEED therapy but if that’s what you believe you need then go for it. But it’s the the life lesson you’ll run into.
You’re just going thru a cannon event
I hear you bro. As you get older you’ll find that most of them are not worth it and a pain to deal outside of sex. Candids let you enjoy without the headache. You just have to balance things a little.
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I say this with all due respect, you are deluding yourself if you believe this site has been a positive influence on you.
You’re trajectory has gotten worse and worse every topic you make. The reality is, you’re likely still posting here because it makes you feel good about yourself (gives you a small dopamine release) when you post about something you did wrong and you have a ‘support group’ to tell you it isn’t as bad as you think it is - it is.
It’s a perpetual cycle, and doesn’t at all aid you in recovery if that’s genuinely your goal. If anything, you are creating two addictions: Shooting candids which gives you a huge rush of dopamine, and then posting topics here which gives you a smaller, yet equally viable, one.
If I had a junk food addiction, the one or two people giving me good advice on JunkFoodCentral dot IO isn’t going to do me much good. You can be anywhere else Omnia, yet you’re posting here. Read the room. If you genuinely want help, you give this site up - there isn’t a workaround for it. Yes, this site is taboo. Yes, there isn’t many people willingly to specifically talk about Candids in regards to intervention, but you still have A ‘addiction’ and there are still sites out there that will help with that… in addition to other resources.
I’m not your guidance counselor nor is anybody else, so we can’t force you. However, if this site was truly a positive influence on you, this topic wouldn’t exist, nor would the many others you have of similar nature. No matter how great the advice is, it’s still a Candid site. It doesn’t matter if you don’t look at pics.
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I’d make the argument that capping can be done safely. As long as you work hard to not be noticed by the person, so that they don’t feel uncomfortable, and also making sure you are doing any drastic things. Recently I’ve been working on disciplining myself by not going to cap people at times when I easily could of.
Also, you have to work on letting go. I get frustrated too when I find an banger opportunity but then screw up the timing. (mentally, definitely not breaking my phone screen lol)
Take a moment, breathe, reassure yourself that it’s just an attractive person and it’s just your hormones controlling ya. Then focus back to other parts of your day.
All of us who cap often def at least a bit of a bad habit, but it’s kind of just because it’s one of our porn kinks. I don’t see the women i’m attracted to in porn much ever unless they’re plastic and i’m not into that.
But two last things,
- maybe one day try to actually approach one and starting a conversation to get her #/social. Might not work out, but if it does you might feel less inclined to cap.
- Have set plans for when you’re allowed to cap and then discipline yourself NOT to cap outside of those time frames.
This is the right answer.
Your real issue probably isn’t even capping. It’s something else. Capping is just your way of coping with whatever it is. Get off this site and any others like it and talk to a therapist. Cut back on the porn too.
If you’re stressing over a cap … then your life ain’t right lol
yeah understood
I’ll take a break from here and try to resist capping
I’ll probably bring it up with my psychologist too. Taking photos in public places isn’t illegal so I shouldn’t need to worry about any legal consequences. They might find it a bit bizarre but I’m sure they’ve heard much worse habits and it’s their job to help with those things
You got anger issues if youre breaking your phone over this. Weirdo