I think I might need to go to therapy…

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For context , I was driving home I saw the sexiest woman I’ve seen in a very long time wearing basically a see through top walking along the sidewalk

I couldn’t not take the opportunity so I pulled my car over and got out with my phone

I didn’t want to chase after her so I slowly walked in her direction on the other side of the road.

I was gaining on her over the course of about 2 minutes until I reached a point where I was close enough to get a few caps…

Literally as soon as I take out my phone, I mean the fucking second I took out my phone she hops into a random car parked awkwardly on some random suburban street. It was as if the universe was like nah fuck you, no capping.

If I was 3 seconds earlier I would’ve got caps of the sexiest woman I’ve seen in ages. If I had only walked a bit faster.

I got so mad I punched my phone and cracked the screen

If this happened every now and then I wouldn’t mind so much but I’m not exaggerating, It’s like this constantly… it feels like I’m being pranked by people who know I’m into capping. If I see a sexy woman she’s about 3 seconds away from jumping into a car or an elevator or shes moving like she’s on a mission from MI6. Meanwhile women I have no interest in will linger around as if it’s a photoshoot.

Capping isn’t the whole issue though… it’s just the tip of the iceberg

The real issue is that I have extremely picky taste in women. I’m not like most guys who cream over anything with a round ass. Maybe 1 in 50 women am I even attracted to and 1 in 200 or less women am I really attracted to.

And I never, ever meet these women naturally. Not on dating apps, not at singles events, not through mutual friends… the only fucking time I ever seem to see women I’m attracted to is when I’m in places where it’s not really appropriate to approach them or cap them… walking along the side walk as I’m driving past… waiting room at the doctors… standing in line at the bank etc.

I’m also most into milfs who I wouldn’t want to date because I don’t want kids so capping them is the next best thing

So when I can’t even manage to get a goddamn cap I can’t help but get mad about it

But considering that I’m always going to have a phone there will always be a temptation to cap and I can’t go on like this

I’m reluctant to mention any of this to a therapist but maybe that’s what I need to do?

What do you guys think?

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Definitely bring it up with your therapist, always be honest with them. They can’t help you without all the info

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Looking at your post history, this site is not good for you. Capping is not good for you. Tell your therapist and get the help you need. It’s not worth it.

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Hang up the gloves brother

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Lol you letting a hobby get to gour head. Always remember there’s always a better piece of ass next time so dont get mad at missed opportunities.

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can we see some of the caps you’re always talking about, its cool reading all these essays but would be nice to see some pics and what the trauma about

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Losing sight of a girl is part of the deal. Loads of times I’ve had a cutie in sight, trying not to get too close until we get to an area with more people, and she has just vanished. Sometimes I don’t even know where she went because I looked away for a second. It’s annoying, but part of the game

I guess that’s not a complete answer but might help you to know that it happens to everyone

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I’ve been seeing a therapist regarding other stuff but I admit I’m a bit skeptical about how much they can really help with this stuff… I mean they might give me some tips but probably nothing I haven’t already considered.

I don’t think it’s linked to OCD or anything so I’m not sure that medication would be the answer

I guess I’ll bring it up and see what they say. I’m sure they’ve heard much worse

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I know it’s not but that’s like telling a drug addict drugs aren’t good for them - difference is that capping is always going to be a temptation wherever I go, so I need to get a handle on it asap

I’ve tried telling myself they’re just pixels, that someone better will come along, that I don’t even look back at most my caps… but like I said it’s more than capping

It’s pent up frustration with what feels like the worst luck in dating and being unable to date women I’m really into despite being a highly desirable guy it just hasn’t worked out for one reason or another - I could list some situations that are so unlucky they sound like the plot to a Seinfeld episode where I’m George, but I need to stop the self pity shit because it doesn’t help

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It’s a bit like telling a depressed person to be happy tho if it was that easy I would man

I’ve gone a month or so without capping recently but then suddenly I’ll spot a dimepiece and I can’t stop myself from getting my phone out and suddenly I’m off the wagon

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There is but every now and then I’ll spy a woman who looks like she was tailor made by god for my tastes, and I only see someone like that every month or so

I’m not one of you dudes who slobbers over every ass that passes me by

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Sometime you have to accept that you’re seeing something you can only really appreciate with your eyes

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Yeah… they’re like the forbidden fruit…can’t cap them and couldn’t ask them out and date them either because realistically we aren’t compatible… I think that’s actually what makes them even more attractive

I just wish I had a better memory

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I know I’m not cursed or anything and everyone in this thing deals with this shit

It’s just uncanny how often is happens and how unlucky I get, it would be like driving to work and getting a red light at every intersection every day

It’s just weird how whenever I’m in positions where I can get away with capping and where the subject is hanging around I’m never attracted to them

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Makes the ones you do get even more special, no? Honestly I can see your problem but part of me kinda admires your dedication to the hobby lol

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Capping seems to be like social media. People know its bad for them, but they can’t stay off it. Its the curse of technology. You have the tech in your hands, its hard to say no when you see what you like. You can always do like the Asian countries and turn on the click and flash on your phone. If you slip up and try a cap it’ll bring attention to you and hopefully thats all.

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All you contribute to this website is essays. Maybe you should just go start a blog or write a diary or something..

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DO NOT tell to normie people what we are DOING in this FORUM please BRO

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Sounds like this ain’t a harmless side hobby for you anymore. Might be time to hang em up. :saluting_face:

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If I ever got to that point ion know what I would do but if you that desperate. I mean what’s next goonning in public ain’t cool